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The Gender Wars Are Making American Men Look for Wives Overseas

American Men Get Your Passport Ready and Let’s Find You a Foreign Wife

Katya Koval
3 min readFeb 7, 2023
Passport bros American man meets Chinese women girlfriend overseas in AFA matchmaking event in Shenzhen
AFA clients who meet in a matchmaking event in Shenzhen China. Photo from A Foreign Affair

A growing number of men (and women) in the United States are dissatisfied with the local dating market. No one wants to date anymore, and that’s understandable.

I mean, seriously, who wouldn’t get discouraged?

These days, most just want to hook up. No one is looking to commit and build a life. Everyone is too keen on prioritizing their careers, personal goals, and individual freedom over settling down and starting a family — especially the women.

Now, I’m not attacking American women. To be honest, I’m proud of them for staying true to themselves, for prioritizing themselves, and for not lowering their standards. It’s their right and choice, and I am all for it.

However, this trend of ‘strong, independent women who don’t need men’ is one of the causes why a lot of American men can’t find anyone to date and marry. American women’s high, unreasonable standards, general hate for men, and lack of traditional values are what’s driving men away from dating in the country.

We have men who want to date, to build a life with someone, and to start a family. But they can’t because their choices are little to none. It’s either the women don’t want to date them because they aren’t “good enough” or they don’t want to date local women because they’re “entitled, individualistic, hyper feminists, or not worth the hassle.” Again, I’m not saying all women in the U.S. are like this, but a decent number of them are, and it’s discouraging men from trying to date them.

I am a firm believer that everyone deserves love and that they shouldn’t give up on finding love. And this is why I’m telling men who are going through this struggle that they have other options. It may not be convenient, but it’s worth the try.

There are a lot of women overseas who would love to get a chance at love with you. Most of them have traditional values, value monogamy, are family-oriented, willing to put in the effort, and have higher standards for relationships.

You can now stop feeling that you’re at a woman’s mercy because some of these women would be genuinely happy and lucky to have you.

“Personally, I could never see myself marrying an American woman and completely understand why some guys go abroad for love. One of the biggest things I’ve noticed while dating here (Philippines) is that women just tend to be better to deal with than women back home.

They are not as superficial and tend to be more feminine. The girls I’ve dated so far enjoy cooking and cleaning for fun, and they generally look better and fitter than most American women I know. Of course, this is just my anecdote. But it’s been the case with nearly every foreign woman I’ve dated.”

I’d rather have our men attempt to find love overseas than end their lives because they never felt “good enough” or felt wanted by anyone. What do they have to lose, right?

Let me know what you think.

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Katya Koval
Katya Koval

Written by Katya Koval

Talks about Men's Issues & Modern Dating | Staff Writer for A-Foreign-Affair.com | Find me on Quora! https://www.quora.com/profile/Katya-Koval-1

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